I have been married 2 times and both were to abusive men. I have been physically and mentally abused and they are very hard relationships to get out of, but I have learned a few things and I am more mature now. The relationship I am in now [ I am engaged ] to a wonderful man. I finally broke my old pattern and chose someone that is good and decent to me, because I deserve that and below are some tips that I have been upholding in this relationship.

Once Married or commited in a relationship: You will need to listen to each other and value each other’s opinions. Furthermore, you need to remember not to take each other for granted. Just think of how much you would miss that person if that person were gone from your life. In addition, you and your partner should always show each other affection every single day, and tell each other of your love for one another. Along with that, you will need to compliment each other. These could be compliments on your partners physical feature (even those without the perfect body) such as “You have a nice smile”, “I like the way you touch me”, or any other honest complement. Do not flatter your partner or you could damage that person, meaning, try not to make complements that you don’t mean just to manipulate that person in some way. It should be genuine.

When you are married, you need to find ways to communicate that will not hurt one another. For example start your sentences with “I feel…” instead of “You make me feel like…” No one can make a person feel like anyone. Own your feelings and do not put the blame and burden totally on someone else. If your spouse is trying to tell you something important do not interrupt that person. That is when the arguing starts-when two people do not want to listen to one another.

If you follow  the above tips you should do fine. However, if you run into any trouble, you both will have to agree together not to give up. If necessary go to counseling or join a support group either together or separately. If you have waited long enough to date after your first marriage, however, your chance of having a successful second one increase.

One other secret to making your marriage stick is to give each other space. For instance, maybe one of you likes to go bowling while the other of you likes to do crafts. You don’t have to do everything together. In fact, it is recommended that you don’t. Otherwise, you could forget entirely about who you are and what is important to you. Giving each other space in your new marriage is just as important as spending quality time together.

Remember  the above tips to help you in your relationship. It will help you in years to come.

I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. It doesn’t seem as bad as when I was younger. I guess over the years I have learned to control it better. A few of the symptoms I have listed below.

• Increased Nervousness, Dizziness, or Feeling Faint
• Excessive Worry Over Everyday Events or Feeling Overwhelmed
• A Increased and Pounding Heartbeat
• Feelings of Smothering or Finding It Hard To Breath For No Obvious Reason
• Inability To Get A Proper Night’s Rest or Wanting To Sleep Too Much

I have always been a bit morbid thinking about death, but I contribute that to seeing alot of people die. Some people go through life and never watch anyone they Love die til they are older. 

Unfortunately for myself I was in bed with my Mother when she died. I was 7 years old. It was very traumatic and 6 months later I saw my Father die, but the strange part about the whole ordeal is that neither one seemed afraid. That fact over the years always comforted me and also this excerpt from Socrates. I wrote this in the back of my Bible when I was young.

It was only recently that I found the quote again and realised what it was all about;

‘To fear death, gentlemen, is no other than to think oneself wise when one is not, to think one knows what one does not know. No one knows whether death may not be the greatest of all blessings for a man, yet men fear it as if they knew that it is the greatest of evils. And surely it is the most blameworthy ignorance to believe that one knows what one does not know.’
Socrates-Taken from the principle arguments of the apology of Socrates.

 Dating for me was a horrible experience. Looking back I realise if I hadn’t been so desperate for Love I would never have gotten attached so easily to the wrong people. Always thinking this one was “The One”. I especially hate first dates, they are so awkward. Always wondering what the other person is thinking about you and if they will call again

At any rate it is a good idea to take a good long look at yourself and your life if you are in search of a partner. We aren’t talking about those superficial elements of magnetism, either.

People who live genuinely happy and well-rounded lives tend to do much better when it comes to the dating game. In fact, the idea that love strikes when it’s least expected probably has its roots in that truth.  Those who are enjoying life are far more apt to attract a mate.

So, if you are on the lookout for Mr. or Ms. Right, consider spending some time thinking about something else! Pursue your passions and interests. Take good care of yourself. Maintain relationships with friends and family. Do all the things that will make your single life better and you might just find your life partner in the process!