The Beauty Denominator

I have often said in the past that I was completely happy on my own and all by myself, but I realized I was simply lying to myself when I met Bill. I put up a wall because of all my relationship failures. It’s hard to mess up a relationship if you’re the only one in it and there really isn’t much satisfaction either being all alone. People need other people to share with and feel like they are a part of something bigger.

Bill was the best present ever given to me and I’m so glad I was smart enough at the time to realize it. He has enriched my life so much and I often worry that I don’t give back as much if not more than I receive. He does tell me that I make him feel important and that he feels appreciated, so that’s a good thing, but I know there are lots of things I could do better.

Bill and I are very different, he talks to everybody and I’m more reserved, the man doesn’t know the word stranger. Of course if someone talks to me I will converse with them, but I’m usually not the instigator of the conversation whereas Bill is, he can talk to anyone and he’s so funny. I have always told him that he is perfect for me and that he balances me and so he does.

The world is full of other people and we either decide to make friends with some of them so that our lives can be enhanced or we can choose to remain silent and aloof and stay in our own little world. I am so much happier because I opened that door and decided to include others and Bill in particular because my life has been  enriched with his knowledge and personality.

I have posted about the Law of Attraction before and I even sent after the Cd’s for the Sedona Method. The power of positive thinking has been studied for years and even though it has been referred to as “The Secret” among many other names the concept and meaning has been known for centuries. What you think will happen, will happen. Your thoughts will manifest themselves into your reality. The words change, but not the meaning.

I posted about happiness yesterday and how we need to think positive thoughts and try to find that silver lining when confronted with negative events. Many stories have been documented where a patient was diagnosed with a fatal illness and with prayer and laughter and positive thinking they dumbfounded their doctors by curing themselves. Whether you believe these accounts or not is your choice, but I tend to believe.

Focusing on negative things will cause negative things to become reality. That’s why when I think of something negative I have a switch word to change the direction of my thoughts and it always works for me. If your mind and life is filled with dissatisfaction, anger, and hate then you will find yourself surrounded by those very same things. I do believe we need to train our mind to see the positive in order to attract the happiness we deserve.

If we can learn to focus our thoughts on positive things, love, happiness and contentment we will have the desired results and life will be filled with positive things. Just wishing for the good things in life though wont make them magically appear, we have to change the way we think and it’s a learning process that most of us want to learn. Many people believe subconsciously that they don’t deserve good things because they haven’t learned to let go of something from the past.

Last year I made a list of everything bad I ever thought I had done and I made myself be brutally honest and then one by one I went through the list and forgave myself for whatever it was I was still holding on to. The average human mind tends to focus on the negative instead of the positive. I not only gave myself permission to forgive myself, but I forgave others that I thought had wronged me also and let them go.

Many of us sit around just worrying about fears, whether they are real or imagined and it consumes our thought process. It’s part of our survival instinct. Often this takes place on an unconscious level, and we don’t even notice these thoughts. Regardless of what it’s being called this year, The Secret or The Law of Attraction, it’s a way to improve your life by changing your thinking process with the power of positive thinking.                                                                       

Finding happiness and holding on to it seems to be quite difficult for many people. I have known people that appear happy all the time even in a bad situation and they always remind me of that saying, “When life gives you lemons, then make lemonade.” People always seem suspicious of other peoples happiness and envious if their life isn’t so happy at the time.

I try to see the bright side when something bad happens and I try to make the best of a bad situation, but sometimes depending on how I feel I don’t. I have discovered that the happiest people are definitely optimists and if you can see the lighter side of life you will be doing yourself a favor. Laughter and exercise release endorphins in the brain naturally and make you feel happy.

If we could lighten up and try seeing the good and positive instead of the negative that would accomplish a healthier mind and body. Most people that are truly happy have a true sense of purpose in their life. Those people with a passion in their life are usually very happy people. For many you will see that faith in God brings happiness and content.

People have to have hope, if you give up hope then what’s left? Despair, a sense of futility or defeat and depression sets in. If we can consciously start looking for the brighter side in every situation instead of instantly thinking something won’t work we could think about how it could. We will be letting go of the negative and reinforcing the positive.

Make a list of all the things in your life that you are blessed with and be thankful for them. Being thankful and grateful goes a long way to that happiness we seek. Truly happy people I have noticed are givers who have hope for the future and a sense of purpose. Giving does bring joy if it’s done for the sole purpose of just giving without strings.

Just to see a troubled face break into a smile is very satisfying. It’s simple to give even if it’s  just a kind word or a smile, but some people are very stingy with even those, so knock it off and give those simple things away, you will be rewarded. Giving your time to someone is a great gift better even than material things in some cases. Although material things are nice too.

Donating toys and food is a great feeling for anyone, just knowing you’re helping someone in a real way will make your heart feel great and will make you feel happy inside. Be sure to nurture those special relationships with family and friends, but do yourself a favor and dump any negative relationships that do nothing except bring you down and make you miserable.

Happiness does mean many things for many different people and we can consciously develop ways to find true happiness by seeking the positive. More about this subject tomorrow.

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

They use this prayer in the “12 step” program, but they don’t specify any particular God just a higher power, but it has been used by many and it’s a great prayer to help in our personal life. I try to remember this prayer a lot in my life even though I didn’t do the “12 steps” I did go to several AA meetings and my son was helped tremendously by the program even though many use that program to help themselves, many also abuse it.

I would like to ask a few questions and they are: Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you can’t change? Can you accept that other people will at times change them instead of you? Can you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what anyone else thinks? Are you able to accept the many changes that can and do take place in your life?

Some people will be able to answer yes to at least one of these and if  it’s more then that’s even better and that’s a good start to improving our personal life. If you have the ability to accept, then you will have less stress and worry. You will be able to laugh even when something isn’t funny of course that could infuriate someone else especially if they had just pushed or slapped you, but it might just diffuse a bad situation.

You can gain and control any situation if you can see and accept that it was only a threat to your emotions. If you have the ability to stand back and laugh that will probably floor them, but that does depend on the situation. If you’re in an abusive situation that could be very detrimental to your life because if someone is prone to violence that will just fuel the fire if they think they can’t control you.

When you  learn to see and accept things that happen in life to yourself and others you  can then find a way to take control and you will be able to accept and improve your personal life. I’m not saying  because a person is being abused that they should stand back and laugh about it and accept it because there is no reason to accept that kind of behavior especially if you put yourself and your children in harms way.

Abuse is one thing that can be changed, you don’t have to stay and yes I know all about abuse and how hard it is to get away and I know many things that I don’t want to discuss right now. That is something that isn’t tolerated and should never be accepted, but the world we live in seems to desensitizes us.

These days we are surrounded by so many influences from television, radio, media, government, school, and everything else that everyone is judging….to be continued….sorry I’m tired.

As a rule I succumb to the idea that everyone is entitled to their opinion and I can either take it or leave it, which I invariably do, but there is one thing that I have a problem with and whether I decide to comment about it is my option to do and that is making superficial comments about someones appearance.

For whatever my reasons are they are mine and I find it totally offensive for someone to joke and make fun of the way someone looks or how they dress. Anything is possible with money and you can change many things, but why should you feel you have to just to appease someone else’s ideas of what you should and shouldn’t wear or how you have to wear your make-up and hair in a certain way.

Our society has come to the conclusion that it is ok to say whatever we please and push the envelope to the extreme, but I don’t agree and that is my prerogative same as yours. If you think it’s okay to hurt a fellow human being then I guess it really doesn’t matter what I say, but think about it, are you a perfect specimen without faults and how would you stand up to ridicule and hurt?

Even though I’m not a Bible thumper I certainly agree with ” Let He Without Sin Cast The First Stone,” meaning is there really anyone out there that is so perfect in looks and every other aspect that they are truly qualified to judge? I think not! Remember the old saying that goes ” Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Now that is an out an out fallacy.

Words can cut you to the bone and cripple the whole reality of your  human being. The misuse and abusive usage of words can have devastating effects on our human ego. You should always remember that if you’re in the public eye you leave yourself wide open for ridicule, scorn and total envy for your position in life.

Maybe we smile brightly and claim we are so happy for someone, but in all honesty can you say that and truly mean it or do you really wish it were you? I really don’t understand how humans would rather help tear something down than to build it up, is attack the strongest thing we have been taught?

Do you believe in the power of subliminal messaging? Can you be manipulated to purchase products and change behaviors from something the eye and ears can’t even see or hear? Well, I have to admit that I’m a believer because I have a little program on my computer that I turn on most days to send messages to my inner self and it has helped me.

It flashes affirmations that I really don’t even have to see. I’m sure you’ve read much on the studies that have been conducted and how subliminal messages are used and have proven to be very effective. With the majority of people it’s show me, give me proof and still they don’t believe when handed said proof, they then think it is a hoax of some kind.

Most of us believe in a higher being with out actually being able to see or touch it in this reality and that is called faith. I have seen and heard many things in my life that weren’t any where near the actuality of what was or had really happened. I now leave my mind open and realize that things aren’t always what they seem, just depends on your perception.

Things and circumstances can always be taken out of context and that’s a valuable lesson I have learned in my life. Always remember that a person should be assumed innocent until proven guilty beyond a shadow of a doubt and we as humans are so quick to judge, but I always try to remember that if I’m judging someone else that in true reality I am also judging myself because we are all one.

If I deny one person the chance of reaching his Heaven and go home  by my condemnation then I totally believe that I am also condemning myself. I’m sorry I somehow lost my train of thought, it must be my subliminals. Back to the topic I started with and that is do you believe you can use subliminal messages to control and manipulate actions?

Subliminal messages are messages that are embedded into any type of media at such a high frequency and or speed that the eye or ears don’t even perceive it, but your subconscious mind does and acts on the suggestions given to it. There are so many things that mere humans simply don’t understand and we have been taught that we are and are not capable of doing so many things.

You should never believe that you aren’t capable of doing anything because if you can think, dream or conceive an idea you can achieve it. We let too many things hold us back and sabotage our body and mind, I am also guilty of letting this happen. I believe deep in my soul that the reality I perceive isn’t the true reality and that this being that I see when I look in the mirror isn’t who I really am.

Okay, I’m totally off the topic I was really going to discuss about subliminal messages being used to infuse energy into our inner being to produce hair growth so I guess I’ll now save that for another day because I have much I need to get done. Have a great day

In my never ending quest to find the beauty inside, probably the most beautiful thing I have ever searched for that unites everyone together as one and makes us whole, I discovered a wonderful resource that I would love to share with you and that is Peter Russell. I was so happy to find this site today and spent much of the afternoon reading there.

If you have questions and haven’t quite gotten the answers you need from other resources that maybe you have spent numerous amounts of money on, then I highly recommend you read the site above. Maybe you will find some answers that will free your soul. I was reading ACIM today and that book makes so much sense, but sometimes I just can’t grasp what I know should be right there.

At any rate I did a search after reading for the term “what is real” and was delighted to find this site so after reading, which I am going to return to shortly, I simply felt the urge to share my great find. I hope it helps you as much as it has already helped me. There are so many sources that I have found in my search of spirituality that teach the same core components. This site answers a lot of questions that I had, but didn’t know how to put them into words.

I’ve been sitting here listening to the Sedona cd that I sent after and realize that it basically shares the same core message as A Course In Miracles. Maybe the Sedona method might give quicker results because I heard testimonials from people that use the method and have felt an immediate release inside, but in reading A Course In Miracles I have also felt that release. I have been trying to shift my perception for years and it’s been a gradual process for me.

Both teach you how to actually realize who and what you truly are and why we are in this reality and that our true nature is pure love. With ACIM it shows you how to unlearn what we were taught with 365 days of lessons to learn how to perceive and understand who you really are, I have all the time in the world. I do know that if you believe something is real it will definitely become so for you.

When I was doing these lessons I felt a sense of peace, but I let other things into my perception so therefore I still haven’t lifted that curtain to find the true me, but every once in awhile I catch a glimpse and I keep trying. I know I will go back and start those lessons again from the beginning, but I procrastinate and believe me I have learned to let a lot go, but still have a lot of baggage to deal with that I do surpress.

A few years ago I pulled a lot of stuff up from my subconcience and released and forgave myself and that did help, I was letting go. I don’t know if anyone is familiar with the 12 step program? One of the steps is to make a list and go back and apologize to anyone that you did wrong or harm to and ask for forgiveness. I guess in theory that is suppose to clear your conscience and open up your soul or whatever, at any rate I don’t think I would do that because all there is is here and now.

I also did a list of those people that I thought had wronged me and that I might be harboring resentment for and released them also and forgave them. I do need to start reading ACIM again and doing the daily exercises. I would love to totally lift that curtain that keeps everything hidden from me and know the whole thing instead of those tiny glimpses. Years ago I was flipping the channel and something a woman was saying held me riveted, her name was Marianne Williamson and she was telling her story and it sounded a lot like mine.

Only thing was she was Jewish and I am not. I was fascinated with the way she spoke and she had such a glow that I decided right that second I had to go buy her book because I wanted what she had and I wanted to know more. The book was A Return To Love and the very next day I bought it. Then I had to have ACIM so I went and bought that to and that’s been maybe 17 years. I do believe that old expression that says when the pupil is ready the teacher will appear.

I wrote about the Sedona Method and how I ordered the cd’s and signed up for the newsletter on the 15th of this month. Well, I got them yesterday the 23rd so I will listen later and see what words of wisdom I can collect from the cd. All it cost me was 6.95 for postage and I thought that was a good deal, but I’ll let you know after I listen and read all the literature.

I would like to send a small prayer to the family of Heath Ledger that played Ennis Del Mar in Brokeback Mountain. I thought he played a good part and thought he had a fantastic future before him. I am very saddened at 28 he was taken away whether by his own hand or a circumstance beyond his control, he had so much to live for.

That brings me to the way humans actually think and most are afraid of the after life and the damnations that are promised to them by the Bible. I personally refuse to believe that God is a punishing God. I totally believe that the personification of that entity is Total Love and would not harm what is a part of him and if you believe or not some higher entity truly Loves you and will never forsake what he created.

I am not afraid of death, well maybe sometimes I am, but I’m only human and sometimes a little fearful, but not often because I saw my Mother die because I was in bed with her and knew without a doubt she was not fearful nor was my Father 6 months later. He had been paralyzed for as long as I could remember on one side and the day he died he raised that arm and leg in the air and shook them both.

A lot of people believe in faith healers and my Father must have been desperate because we went with him to see Oral Roberts way back when he had tent meetings and I was just a little girl. We stood in the line for hours and if my Father hadn’t believed he wouldn’t have been there, but he was told he didn’t believe strong enough because he wasn’t healed, but I was young and I had enough faith for him and he still wasn’t healed.

That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in Faith and God because I do. We all have our own path to walk whatever that may be and every day is a new chance to start over and experience something new and start again. We have choices because they were given to us and it’s up to us to use them and experience everything we possibly can.

I have spent much of my life on a spiritual quest, searching for complete inner peace. Their are so many beliefs and religions in the world, do you just follow what your friends and family recommend or do you do your own research and check them out for yourself, you’ll never find your truths unless you do. I have to admit that I’m not a big fan of organized religion and I have always had my own ideas about spirituality.

As a rule I usually don’t discuss religion, but I will discuss how I feel about life and living and how everyone should and could be happy if we just knew how to release the power of the mind and let it work. There are so many good things that everyone deserves and when something feels right and truthful for me I try to embrace the ideas and see if they work for me.

I found A Course In Miracles many years ago or rather it found me and I try to read and understand as many of the principles as possible, but I still don’t have a total grip, but it makes more sense to me than some other sources that I have read. I also believe in the concepts of the Buddha and the Essenes of Arkashea which you can read online at arkashea.org if your interested. I purchased a book long ago that answered a lot of questions for me.

I take many ideas and thoughts from many places and add them together for myself and try to make it personalized for me and that seems to work. I know I have been happier in the past 5 years than ever in my life except for menopause that gets me down sometimes, but hopefully that will be over soon.

I have the past year gone through my mind and tried to honestly lighten my heart by forgiving anyone that I ever thought wronged me and especially myself for many wrongs that I feel I may have done and believe it or not it does help when you let things go and realize that there is only the here and now and each day is a blessing and a chance to begin again by not holding on to what isn’t there.