The Beauty Denominator

Wimbledon tennis tickets who in the world wouldn’t want to get their hands on them? I personally love to watch tennis because I can’t play any more and even though I was never good it was fun and great exercise. Between my wrist and knees plus my poor old back I am now relegated to watching.

My favorite tennis champion has to be Billie Jean King and she won six Wimbledon singles championships and four U.S. Open titles, now how great is that? She set the stage in the 70’s as far as I’m concerned for all women athletes. She was ranked No. 1 in the world  for five years.

Who in the world can forget her match with Bobby Riggs “The Battle Of The Sexes?” He had won the Wimbledon Championship in 1939, but as far as I’m concerned was a joke afterwards because he chose to be, but he was still a great player and no one can take that away from him or his victories, but the showdown in 1973 had to be my favorite.

I wish I could afford to go to the open in June, but it’s just not going to happen. I have friends that live in England and I know they will send me feed back, but I’m sure I will be able to make it some day. Most of my friends really don’t get into tennis because for them it’s the same as golf and they simply don’t understand the idea of hitting a ball around, go figure.

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

They use this prayer in the “12 step” program, but they don’t specify any particular God just a higher power, but it has been used by many and it’s a great prayer to help in our personal life. I try to remember this prayer a lot in my life even though I didn’t do the “12 steps” I did go to several AA meetings and my son was helped tremendously by the program even though many use that program to help themselves, many also abuse it.

I would like to ask a few questions and they are: Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you can’t change? Can you accept that other people will at times change them instead of you? Can you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what anyone else thinks? Are you able to accept the many changes that can and do take place in your life?

Some people will be able to answer yes to at least one of these and if  it’s more then that’s even better and that’s a good start to improving our personal life. If you have the ability to accept, then you will have less stress and worry. You will be able to laugh even when something isn’t funny of course that could infuriate someone else especially if they had just pushed or slapped you, but it might just diffuse a bad situation.

You can gain and control any situation if you can see and accept that it was only a threat to your emotions. If you have the ability to stand back and laugh that will probably floor them, but that does depend on the situation. If you’re in an abusive situation that could be very detrimental to your life because if someone is prone to violence that will just fuel the fire if they think they can’t control you.

When you  learn to see and accept things that happen in life to yourself and others you  can then find a way to take control and you will be able to accept and improve your personal life. I’m not saying  because a person is being abused that they should stand back and laugh about it and accept it because there is no reason to accept that kind of behavior especially if you put yourself and your children in harms way.

Abuse is one thing that can be changed, you don’t have to stay and yes I know all about abuse and how hard it is to get away and I know many things that I don’t want to discuss right now. That is something that isn’t tolerated and should never be accepted, but the world we live in seems to desensitizes us.

These days we are surrounded by so many influences from television, radio, media, government, school, and everything else that everyone is judging….to be continued….sorry I’m tired.

Have you ever noticed that when you are in love you tend to over look many irritating habits of your mate, but as you get more settled and comfortable together they start to stand out and really jar on your nerves, but just remember that it’s a two way street. No one is perfect even though we like to think we are and many times we aren’t even aware that we are doing anything irritating.

Some of the things we do like whining, criticizing, driving and talking on the cell phone, grinding your teeth, smacking your lips when you eat or talk, chewing with your mouth open, popping gum, cracking your knuckles, tapping your foot, tapping your pencil or fingers on a desk, making inappropriate body noises in public, blowing your nose at the table in a restaurant just to name a few can be very irritating for the people around you.

I get irritated when people with a basket full of groceries goes through the express lane or someone jumps in front of you in line, now that’s a very rude bad social habit that some people have developed and it’s one that should be curbed because your time is just as valuable as theirs and you are just as important as they are. It’s different if you let someone with a couple items go before you, that’s nice.

Another very irritating habit people have developed is having their cell phone constantly glued to their ear. It doesn’t matter where they are, standing in a line at the bank, checking out at the grocery store while the poor girl is trying to conduct business with you and count your money out, but your too busy fussing at your girlfriend and the line is getting longer with even more irritated people.

Many people in restaurants don’t watch their children and let them run all over the place, while others are very stern and either way it can be very irritating and unpleasant to be around. Some people are very loud and like to be the center of attention now that is very annoying if your trying to have a relaxing dinner out. I don’t like to have attention drawn to me so that irritates me.

I was a waitress for many years and have seen many things and a really irritating habit is when someone reaches over and takes someone else’s food off their plate without even asking, how rude. I have actually seen people blow their nose on a cloth napkin, how uncouth and irritating. I really don’t know if these were just bad habits that they didn’t even think about or they just didn’t care.

Another thing that always irritated me was when the loud mouth would say make sure you give me the check or you wont get a tip of course the nice gentleman at the head of the table had already requested it and I often wanted to tell the loud mouth where they could stick that tip. Even if no one else had asked for the check first I never gave it to anyone that ever said that to me.

I often found that the loud mouth invariably thought that a dollar was good for a hundred dollar check. Well, I really hadn’t planned on discussing the bad social habits of some people, but they always  irritated me so I got carried away. The point is there are so many types of bad habits that can be broken down into categories.

I have never been able to take a compliment at face value because it makes me think they want something from me and they’re buttering me up for the kill or favor that usually comes after they have me in a good mood. That sounds pretty cynical and it’s sad when people are suspicious of someone just because they give a nice compliment.

When I was younger I felt I had to do whatever they wanted or they wouldn’t be nice to me anymore. I then learned how to say no and when they more or less took back their compliment, by saying, well I really didn’t like your new hair cut anyways or whatever the original compliment was I realized that there were a lot of hateful selfish people out there or maybe I simply gravitated toward the wrong self centered ones.

To this day I don’t like compliments unless it’s about a job I completed and feel good about. I know when I put an effort out there on any project and it’s always nice to be appreciated for a job well done. I can take a compliment on my work with no reservations, but I still have a problem with personal ones even though I learned over the years that there really are a lot of nice sincere people in the world.

Everyone has a vision of how they look and what the are all about, but is it a true perception? You really don’t know how other’s see you or what they really think about you. You know what you want them to see, but how good are you at projecting that image? All the world truly is a stage as Shakespeare said and we are the actors playing a part. I personally have changed the role I’m playing many times.

The older I get the freer I feel and I really don’t care what anyone thinks about me, all that matters is how I feel about myself at the end of the day and I like myself, but that wasn’t always the case. I always wanted to fit in and be liked and popular I never felt like I was liked for me. Well, actually I wasn’t because no one including me knew who I was. Looking back at the life I was given I realize I have been many things to many people.

I have played many roles and for the most part I have always been given something valuable from each encounter in my life. I am grateful for all the places I have lived and all the people and experiences I have had. When I look back my life seems to have happened to someone else, like a book I read long ago because that person is no longer me.

Bill never gives me insincere compliments, but I still find them uncomfortable. I seem to be rambling and I actually forgot what my original train of thought was when I started this so I think I’ll go to bed and sleep on it. The weekend is over and I’m tired. I was doing a much needed declutering around the house.

I got carried away when I was checking out the sponsorship ads for SocialSparks and I clicked the x-box sponsorship, but there really wasn’t a place to change it so I am going to be sponsored for a few days and I really apologize before hand because I hate ads that cover the whole blog, but it pays well so if you don’t visit me during that time I will certainly understand because I totally get bothered when people cover their site with an ad. At any rate have a great weekend, see you on Monday.

There is a natural shedding of the top layer of the scalp just like your skin and it is sometimes confused with dandruff. The scales usually fall off naturally and that is normal so don’t panic. The medical term for dandruff is pityriasis and is very contagious so you should never use anyone else’s grooming equipment. It is thought to be caused from a certain microbe and the medical consensus is that it is of infectious origin.

Dandruff can cause baldness if not treated and as far as I know there is no cure, but it can be kept under control with professional treatment and medicated shampoo. As taught in school the direct cause is from the excessive shedding of the epithelial surface cells and instead of growing to the surface and falling off naturally the horny scales accumulate on the scalp and hair.

The scalp doesn’t always have good circulation, that’s why manipulating or massage can get that blood pumping. The more loose your scalp is the better, slide your fingers and palm under your hair in the front and see how easily you can move your scalp, if it moves freely and feels loose then that’s great if it doesn’t have much movement and it’s tight then do yourself a favor and make an appointment for a scalp treatment. If you have a serious disorder then you may need to see a dermatologist for special treatments.

Other associated causes of dandruff along with the poor circulation that causes a sluggish scalp are infection, improper diet, injury, uncleanliness, and lack of nerve stimulation. Also avoid the use of strong shampoos and make sure that your hair is properly rinsed. There are 2 types of dandruff and they are Pityriasis capitis simplex which is the dry type and Pityriasis steatoides which is greasy and waxy.

With the simplex type the scalp is dry and itchy and the dry white scales attach to the scalp or in the hair and it’s recommended to have frequent scalp treatments, regular scalp massage, use mild shampoos, and daily use of antiseptic scalp lotions. In the salon I used Nexus products because I took a course from them and I loved their products.

They have several that I liked for this purpose and they are Dandarrest for dandruff control. It helps dissolve those dry and oily flakes and relieves itching while improving the strength and elasticity of your hair. Exxoil deep cleansing shampoo because of the astringent, antiseptic value and it helps control any excessive oil production and you can also use this as a facial cleanser. Pep ‘R’ Mint was also very effective and I had many clients after regular use swear by that particular product.

Steatoids is the greasy waxy type the horny flakes get mixed with excessive sebum and they stick to the scalp in patches and if the scalp itches and you scratch it you can tear them loose and cause bleeding and oozing so please seek medical attention. When you work in a salon you have to know and practise good sanitation procedures always, people go to get pampered and beautiful, not to contract a contagious disease.
                          

Hair loss and baldness is associated and linked with many things such as the testosterone level, heredity, and simply from aging. Other reasons that can influence hair loss or baldness include hormonal imbalances, tinea capitis (ringworm), ovarian tumors, autoimmune disorders ( systemic lupus erythematosus), some infectious diseases, endocrine disorders (thyroid problem), and tumor of the adrenal glands.

Some medications and of course chemo drugs will cause hair loss and baldness and even radiation therapy can affect the hair cell growth and lead to thinning and baldness sometimes, but not always. Stress, worry, and emotions can also influence hair loss and pulling of the hair and especially tight braiding can contribute to thinning and balding. It’s good to manipulate the scalp, but any incessant scalp rubbing should be avoided.

Usually some women can experience a temporary hair loss after childbirth or with menopause, but it usually returns to normal between 6 months to 2 years. If your suffering from a disease or using medication then you shouldn’t be overly concerned because the hair should grow back after the underlying cause is removed. Of course many women and men feel self conscious and choose to use some sort of head covering.

I was reading about people using positive subliminal messages that are recorded in high frequencies and embedded in a recording. People are using both the masked and ultrasonic format to revitalize the blood flow in the scalp and incite the hair cells to regenerate. I personally don’t know anyone that has used this method, but I use a small subliminal program for my computer to help my subconscious affirmations so who knows.