Finding a partner, friend, companion or whatever you prefer to call them to share your life with is not as easy as some people would have you think. Sure it’s easy to go out on dates for some people, but I always had one heck of a time because all the guys I met had one thing on their mind and had no conversation what so ever, they were so boring and I could hardly wait to go home and pray I would never run into them again.
I have always looked for someone that could make me laugh and that I could converse with about anything and just share above anything else and then the other good stuff would just follow. So I decided to check out those dating sites and it was fun just to flirt and see if anyone had anything on their mind that was interesting instead of typing suggestive innuendos. There were a few that were very nice and I actually had 4 dates, but always met in a public place.
Unfortunately none of them met my expectations and I decided not to meet any more people in person basically because I had my eye on someone that came into the restaurant that I worked at and that was Bill, but I figured we would never get together because he never made a move. He seemed to be just my type, but I eventually put him on the back burner of my mind till a year later.
I was always told if you are actively seeking love you will never find it, but if you start concentrating on other things like school or your career then love will find you and I have actually found this to be true. Needless to say it took me 49 years to find the person that I could be content to spend the rest of my life with and that was the back burner guy and I have to say Bill is not perfect, but He is perfect for me.
Apparently he had been in a bad relationship for 7 years and when we met he was still trying to work it out, that’s why he never made a move and I really admire him for that. Even though now it seems like we wasted a lot of time it should me his character and I really admire him. He’s the type that will stand by someone until they kick him to the curb, so when that happened and he knew that it was totally over he then “Finally” made a move and we have been very happy for 5 years.
The point is you never know when love will find you and it’s a good idea to keep all your options open and not settle for just anyone because you’re lonely. I know a lot of women that have done that and settled for someone that wasn’t right for them, myself included and for most of us it never works out. I have talked to many women over the years that have stories the same as mine of spousal abuse and desperation.
I didn’t mean to get on that subject so I’ll drop that right now. You never know when the right companion will come along or even if they ever will, so the most important thing I have learned in life is to love yourself and treat yourself good and fill your life with friends, family, joy and by sharing and participating in group activities at school, church, and community and you can have a full and rich life until the right partner comes along.
