The Beauty Denominator

United bloggers against abuse are making history today. All over the blogosphere you will be seeing posts to raise awareness against abuse of any form. I wrote about the abuse I had experienced in childhood and when I was married on my other blog and for this one I am writing about the abuse we perpetrate on ourselves for whatever reasons.

Not everyone lives a fairy tale life and as children we are shaped and molded by the adults in our lives. No one is perfect and most parents do the best they can, but usually there are certain rolls that our parents or guardians try to put us in and as a result if we don’t fit then we are considered misfits and we are not always treated with the respect we should be.

As an individual we should all be accepted as being unique and not made to feel inferior because we are not the exact same copy of someone else and as a result we tend to not be able to accept ourselves and may become abusive by drinking or escaping with drugs. It’s very hard to feel like you fit in and are accepted. We abuse ourselves daily by undergoing cosmetic surgery of one kind or another because we don’t like who we are and we want to look different and the young girls that have developed bulimia and anorexia over the years and abused their systems is just heartbreaking.

We tend to abuse ourselves daily in one form or another and we need to become more aware of how to be nice to the most important person in the world and that would be You. Regardless of how you’ve been treated in the past don’t continue the patterns of abuse on yourself. Some people even preform self mutilation which is shocking. There are so many forms of self abuse out there that I wont attempt to name them here. If we could just learn to be more accepting and less judgmental we could make this a much nicer world to live in.

I know I have berated myself mentally and called myself a lot of abusive names which is definitely not good for the soul although I have worked hard on that over the years I still slip and call myself stupid or ugly at times, but I have finally learned to love me and accept me for who I am so those derogatory remarks are very few and far between. We live and learn, but we don’t always learn how to live till it’s too late.