The Beauty Denominator

When it comes to dieting everyone agrees that they hate the process that will give us the end results that we so eagerly wait and anticipate. We tend to forget the beautiful people we are inside while we are so busy focusing on the external beauty and it’s very sad that our culture has become so obsessive about the perfect image and body that we force young girls to become anorexic and we feel so self conscious when we add a few pounds.

Everyone does not have to look the same, how boring would it be if we all looked the same? Variety is the spice of life and makes the world an interesting place. I most certainly don’t like to be around people that think just like me, where’s the fun in that?

If you decide you need to lose a few pounds then let dieting and shedding those pounds be about health and not beauty. Don’t let yourself conform to some preconceived idea of what is or should be beautiful. If you focus on just being happy with who you are then you can achieve the greatest dieting success you have ever dared dream.

A lot of us eat to feel an emotional need or a simple need for comfort when we are depressed, hurting, uncertain, or simply in unfamiliar territory. There is no solution that will work for everyone when it comes to making peace with who you are and this by no means indicates that you should no longer seek to be the healthiest that you can be. It means only that your focus should be more about coming to terms with who you are as a person instead of creating a new image or person to hide behind.

I know sometimes it’s easier to hide and I have done that myself. I fluctuate up and down and have for many years and I haven’t always liked me, but I have steadily worked on it over the years and I love me now, most of the time.

Dieting for the most part is an opportunity for many men and women to become someone else. Whether that someone is the person you used to be or some person you think you want to be, you are quite unlikely to find happiness at any weight until you accept you for the person you are inside.

I have a friend that had been very heavy for years and she quit eating sugar and the weight started dropping off she had never come to terms with her inner beauty and always put herself down. But all of a sudden she was starting to feel different just because the outside was changing and because she was receiving so much positive attention, especially from men it turned her head and for whatever reason she broke her wedding vows for a fling.

Once you’ve accepted the person inside you can address the specific needs that often lead to the excess weight to begin with. This is often a difficult process but one that is well worth the effort. Depression is a common factor in weight gain as well as an inability to lose weight. By finding contentment depression will no longer be a controlling factor in your life. For many, this is the freedom they need from their weight problems while others will find there are still hurdles remaining.

The important thing is that you stop allowing the person you are to be defined by what the scales say about you. Once you’ve reached a point in your life where you are happy with your appearance and feel that your personal fitness level is in hand you should discuss things with your doctor and see what he or she has to say. We do not need a nation of size 2 women. We need a nation of women who are self-aware and self confident and not afraid to be who they are on the inside regardless of how they look on the outside.

Finding the beauty within is often the most important aspect of dieting that there can be. Take the time while dieting to get to know the person you are and introduce that person to the person you want to be. In time the two will work out a healthy compromise and you will find that image isn’t really everything no matter what the glossy magazines try to tell you.